The Spotlight is on Domestic Violence as it shares OCTOBER with Breast Cancer Awareness

Women have a lot to worry about, but we do it. We meet things head on, we conquer, we keep going. We hold down jobs. We raise kids. We balance relationships. Often times we do all this at the expense of ourselves, our mental, physical, and emotional well being.

While Breast Cancer takes front and center in October, Domestic Violence has shared this month for decades in search of raising awareness in the hopes of keeping women safe. And while I know a few women who have struggled with breast cancer (my own grandmother passed from breast cancer back in the early 70s), I know way more women who battle domestic violence. And like cancer is often undetected and silent, many women don’t realize they are in a domestic violence relationship.

I write romance. I love happily ever afters. I believe that there is someone for everyone. I know that in order to find love we do not have to compromise. We deserve kindness, respect, truth, commitment, if that is what we are seeking.

But. There is the god-forsaken BUT.

Sometimes we think we’ve found true love, but once we become invested in the relationship we realize things aren’t as we were promised it would be.




We are led to believe Domestic Violence is broken bones, black eyes, busted lips, and missing teeth. That’s where that one in three statistic comes in. Most women only report the physical violence. But Domestic Violence destroys women in so many other insidious ways.

Mental, Emotional, Physical, Psychological, Verbal types of abuse are actually more common than physical abuse. These abuses usually injure women in ways that never heal. Invisible wounds that last forever can even eventually manifest in illness and disease. Mental health illnesses like depression and anxiety, physical illnesses like fibromyalgia, cancer, auto-immune diseases ravage our bodies and minds. Psychological constructs like believing we deserve the pain being inflicted on us, or that all relationships suck so this is normal, or worse, we caused the abuse, become a way of life.

If you’re unhappy, look at your life. Look at the person you think you love. Is he kind? Is he respectful? Is your relationship balanced?

He doesn’t have to hit you to be abusing you.

Here is what a healthy relationship should look like.
Communication. You talk openly about problems and listen to one another. You respect each other’s opinions.

Respect. You value each other’s opinions, feelings, and needs. You give each other the freedom to be yourself and be loved for who you are.

Trust. You believe what your partner has to say and don’t feel the need to “prove” each other’s trustworthiness.

Honesty. You’re honest with each other but can still keep some things private.

Equality. You make decisions together and hold each other to the same standards. You and your partner have equal say about major decisions within the relationship. All partners have access to the resources they need.

Boundaries. You enjoy spending time apart, alone, or with others. You respect each other’s need for time and space apart. You communicate with each other about what you are and aren’t comfortable with.

The National Hotline for Domestic Violence is: 800-799-7233

If you are in Oneida County or Herkimer County, New York give the YWCA Mohawk Valley a call on their hotline at: 315.797.7740.

Also, check out the Y’s website at

Stay safe. Stay happy. Never stop believing in healthy love.

Where did the summer go?

Where did the summer go? As I sit at my desk, looking at the spattering of yellow leaves on my still very green lawn, I know that winter is not too far off. But right now, I want to celebrate Autumn with a quick look back at where the summer actually went!

We balanced eggs at Mabon (Autumn Equinox) to celebrate the balance in life at a time when the world is cloaked for 24 hours equally-half in light, half in darkness.
Deer Lodge Tennessee Rainbows are as fleeting as magnificent when you can catch them!

Summer roared to a very quick-paced, jam-packed end with an unexpected trip to Tennessee to help care for my sick grandmother. At 98 years young Mother is healthier than I am, but an unexpected fall laid her up for a bit. She is doing really well, getting back to normal, and looking forward to her 99th birthday come June, 2023!

My Grandmother, Evaughn.

We said farewell to August with a much anticipated Barnes and Noble Book Signing/Meet the Author event that was a huge success!

Janina Grey at New Hartford Barnes and Noble!

I spent the afternoon surrounded by loved ones, family, old and new friends, and a great supportive B&N staff that made sure everything went smoothly. LIFE IS FOR LIVING is now in print at B&N, Alabaster & Ash, Amazon, and Soul Mate Publishing! If you’ve not read it yet, grab a copy. Since it’s Book 2 of the Earth and Sky series, you may want to pick up Book 1/LOVE IN THE FOREST. Both have been well received with lots of great reviews.

Mohawk Valley Rainbow!

September was filled with rainbows, a very cool wedding I had the honor to officiate, spiders (my spirit totem and the bane of my existence. Definitely a love/hate relationship there!) end of summer bonfires, our first in person Pagan Pride Day since the pandemic, experimenting with meal plans, and prepping for autumn and winter!

Hope to have another fire before the snows set in.

October started off with a Cheese Festival in Little Falls, a family gathering to celebrate a milestone in my great-nephew Hunter’s life (again in Little Falls) and decorating for Samhain!

Little Falls Cheese Festival, 2022

Peppered in between those fun times, I got my butt in gear and finished LOST IN YOUR RHYTHM! Jack and Liza’s story is complete! I’m wrapping up the final first read through before I send it off to Soul Mate Publishing for it’s 2023 release!

Typing The End is one of the most exhilarating feelings I’ve ever experienced. Toasting myself with a bit of Irish Whiskey is definitely in order!

So while this was a quick recap, I promise to add more pics and better explanations. My days have been filled with edits and rewrites as I try to get LOST IN YOUR RHYTHM ready to send out, so bear with me.

We’ve got announcements coming up regarding possible additional book signing dates, raffle winners (still haven’t been drawn yet!), and exciting news about a Featured Author spot in a romance trade publication that is due out in November/December!

I’ve got some holiday decorating to finish, and a very cool conference I’ll be attending this coming weekend. More details on that to follow! in the meantime, enjoy some Halloween fun times below!